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Weekend reading a la me. 

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Image: Metamorphosis by Me andEdward.

The murder of black youth is a reproductive justice issue. (The Nation)

My receipt was not good enough." Post-Ferguson, (newly minted NYT bestseller) Roxane Gay’s essay on shopping/driving/walking/existing while black packs even more of a punch. (Roxane Gay) 

I’m tired of effortless. Hard-fought and hard-won is so much sexier and longer lasting." (Lainey Gossip)

"A more accurate framework for the article would be ‘the dispute between radical feminists and the vast majority of feminists and LGBTQ activists who disagree with them,’ but that isn’t so sexy and probably wouldn’t generate quite as many page views.” Trans writer Julia Serano responds to the New Yorker piece I shared last fortnight at The Advocate. (The Advocate)

On being an introverted feminist. (Feminist Wednesday)

How scheduling technology is wreaking havoc on the lives of low-income workers. (New York Times)

A couple of Kickstarter projects you might like to support: Out of the Binders Symposium for Women Writers and Dream, Girl: The Documentary. (Kickstarter)

It’s okay not to feel anything when a celebrity dies. (The Daily Dish)

"What a burden it must be to be the only non-crap girl in the village." (Glosswitch) 

For me, money isn’t just a side feminist issue, but the most important one, because in so many ways, having it buys independence.” (Dame Magazine)

How “overnight success” really happens: an artist compiles all her rejections into an ‘anti-resume.’ (Washington Post)

I’m writing a weekly column for Cosmo now. (Cosmopolitan)

And ICYMI: my interview with Persephone Magazine about my forthcoming book. (Persephone Magazine)

New gig: Cosmo’s Sex Talk Realness

So, I’ve got some news. I’m going to be looking after Cosmopolitan’s Sex Talk Realness column for the next little while. Each week, I’ll be interviewing 2-4 people (women and men, straight and queer) on a different topic related to sex and relationships.

The great thing about this column is that it’s not about telling you what you do or don’t have to do in order to be “good in bed” (a personal pet peeve of mine). It’s real people, talking about their experiences and challenges when it comes to sex in a frank and non-judgmental fashion. And if you volunteer to participate, you will be completely anonymous. No names, no ages, no locations – just Woman A, Man B, Person C, etc.

I’m hoping to cover a mix of “sexy” and more political topics, starting this week with how having an STI affects (or doesn’t) your sex life.(Please get in touch by Tuesday lunchtime if you can help.)

Over the next month, I’ll also be covering sexual piercings (clit, nipple, penis, any others I haven’t thought of), asexuality, and fisting (seeking straight and queer women).

Can you help with any of these? Email me at rachel dot hills at gmail dot com.

The best of the rest of the internet

This week’s link round-up is so good that sharing these stories with you sends a little bolt of joy into my heart.

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Image: Bjork.

There is a gap between victories relevant to the lives of gay men and the rest of the LGBT community, and it is threatening to become a chasm. Ask a white gay man living in West Hollywood, a latino transgender man in Albuquerque, and a black lesbian in Dallas the same question: Does America love you yet?" (Buzzfeed)

"I worry about the kids who don’t win. Because — and I can report this first-hand — not everyone gets a trophy.” (The New Inquiry) 

Somewhere along the lines, society taught me to stop being drawn to others for who they were and instead… what they were." (Alexis Belon)

Which wedding traditions should be tossed? (NYTimes)

How your Instagram sausage gets made. (Bustle)

Sex without fear. Will PrEP revolutionize gay life? (New York Magazine)

"Celebrity and traditional brand engagement is a dying breed compared to the allure of the normal girl." Oh, how I wish I had written this article. (The Daily Beast)

Radical feminists now find themselves in a position that few would have imagined when the conflict began: shunned as reactionaries on the wrong side of a sexual-rights issue.” Michelle Goldberg is probably my favourite journalist right now, and this article is fascinating. I wish that it had had a stronger trans voice, though; I kept waiting for it to come into the article, but it never really did. (New Yorker)

Why does the conversation about Having It All begin and end with white women? On balancing career and family as a woman of color.(National Journal)

In defense of women’s magazines. (Cosmopolitan) 

"As it turns out, I am only a people person with people I already know." I’m not sure if this piece by Sloane Crosley is short fiction or a personal essay, but either way, it is very funny. (McSweeney’s)

"By opting to build her celebrity on a carefully chosen set of proprietary symbols — in this case, smile and hair and body (and voice, of course) — as opposed to a carefully constructed, apparel-related look, Beyoncé & Company have ensured that the only brand that really has any real staying power is brand Beyoncé; that everything she is selling comes back to her." (NYTimes)

I never really bought into the whole “raunch culture” narrative, but I did buy into the idea that sex was something very important. That it said something about the kind of person you were: how liberal you were; how desirable you were; how pure you were; how well you fit in with the people around you.

Two years ago, I interviewed the lovely Luann Algoso for my book. Now, she is interviewing me for Persephone Magazine. And reminding me that apparently we sang Hanson songs together in a public place. Totes professional. 

You can read the interview here.