So, I’ve got some news. I’m going to be looking after Cosmopolitan’s Sex Talk Realness column for the next little while. Each week, I’ll be interviewing 2-4 people (women and men, straight and queer) on a different topic related to sex and relationships.
The great thing about this column is that it’s not about telling you what you do or don’t have to do in order to be “good in bed” (a personal pet peeve of mine). It’s real people, talking about their experiences and challenges when it comes to sex in a frank and non-judgmental fashion. And if you volunteer to participate, you will be completely anonymous. No names, no ages, no locations – just Woman A, Man B, Person C, etc.
I’m hoping to cover a mix of “sexy” and more political topics, starting this week with how having an STI affects (or doesn’t) your sex life.(Please get in touch by Tuesday lunchtime if you can help.)
Over the next month, I’ll also be covering sexual piercings (clit, nipple, penis, any others I haven’t thought of), asexuality, and fisting (seeking straight and queer women).
Can you help with any of these? Email me at rachel dot hills at gmail dot com.
This week’s link round-up is so good that sharing these stories with you sends a little bolt of joy into my heart.
“There is a gap between victories relevant to the lives of gay men and the rest of the LGBT community, and it is threatening to become a chasm. Ask a white gay man living in West Hollywood, a latino transgender man in Albuquerque, and a black lesbian in Dallas the same question: Does America love you yet?" (Buzzfeed)
"I worry about the kids who don’t win. Because — and I can report this first-hand — not everyone gets a trophy.” (The New Inquiry)
“Somewhere along the lines, society taught me to stop being drawn to others for who they were and instead… what they were." (Alexis Belon)
Which wedding traditions should be tossed? (NYTimes)
How your Instagram sausage gets made. (Bustle)
Sex without fear. Will PrEP revolutionize gay life? (New York Magazine)
"Celebrity and traditional brand engagement is a dying breed compared to the allure of the normal girl." Oh, how I wish I had written this article. (The Daily Beast)
“Radical feminists now find themselves in a position that few would have imagined when the conflict began: shunned as reactionaries on the wrong side of a sexual-rights issue.” Michelle Goldberg is probably my favourite journalist right now, and this article is fascinating. I wish that it had had a stronger trans voice, though; I kept waiting for it to come into the article, but it never really did. (New Yorker)
Why does the conversation about Having It All begin and end with white women? On balancing career and family as a woman of color.(National Journal)
In defense of women’s magazines. (Cosmopolitan)
"As it turns out, I am only a people person with people I already know." I’m not sure if this piece by Sloane Crosley is short fiction or a personal essay, but either way, it is very funny. (McSweeney’s)
"By opting to build her celebrity on a carefully chosen set of proprietary symbols — in this case, smile and hair and body (and voice, of course) — as opposed to a carefully constructed, apparel-related look, Beyoncé & Company have ensured that the only brand that really has any real staying power is brand Beyoncé; that everything she is selling comes back to her." (NYTimes)
Two years ago, I interviewed the lovely Luann Algoso for my book. Now, she is interviewing me for Persephone Magazine. And reminding me that apparently we sang Hanson songs together in a public place. Totes professional.
You can read the interview here.
The Fake As The More, Sarah Nicole Prickett
Immersing myself in all things Lana Del Rey for an essay I’m writing…
"History’s gonna be harder to make than I thought." - Kanye/everyone via annfriedman