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After I received my most recent round of threats, I asked Jessica Valenti, a prominent feminist writer (and the founder of the blog Feministing), who’s been repeatedly targeted with online threats, for her advice, and then I asked her to share her story. “It’s not really one story. This has happened a number of times over the past seven years,” she told me. When rape and death threats first started pouring into her inbox, she vacated her apartment for a week, changed her bank accounts, and got a new cell number. When the next wave of threats came, she got in touch with law enforcement officials, who warned her that though the men emailing her were unlikely to follow through on their threats, the level of vitriol indicated that she should be vigilant for a far less identifiable threat: silent “hunters” who lurk behind the tweeting “hollerers.” The FBI advised Valenti to leave her home until the threats blew over, to never walk outside of her apartment alone, and to keep aware of any cars or men who might show up repeatedly outside her door. “It was totally impossible advice,” she says. “You have to be paranoid about everything. You can’t just not be in a public place.” (Pacific Standard)
Autumn Whitefield Madrano’s review of Laurie Penny’s Unspeakable Things is so smart that I wanted to live tweet the whole thing:
"I’m a believer in the idea that it takes all types to create lasting social change. … But when you immerse yourself in the possibility of mutiny—even if only for as long as it takes you to read Unspeakable Things—it makes you a bit testy at the limits of what face of feminism is likely to be beamed onto the main stage. And it might even make you a little bit testy at the ways you’ve been complicit in those limits, without ever having intended to do so.” (The Beheld)
And in case you missed it, here’s my take on Laurie’s book (and the commercialization of feminism). (Daily Beast)
“'Payment is on an unpaid basis,' is a sentence that should not exist. It’s a linguistic offense, but also a legal one: zero dollars an hour is well below the minimum wage in all fifty states.” (The Baffler)
And, related: Leonardo DiCaprio took home $25 million for The Wolf of Wall Street. Jonah Hill? $60,000. (The Hollywood Reporter)
Hell Yeah, Sex Positive. (Tumblr)
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I got some wonderful, thoughtful responses from a bunch of brilliant young women. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences; I can’t wait to share the story with you when it goes live.
But I also need a little bit more diversity before the article can be published. In particular, I’d love to hear from people who fit one of the following categories:
- Were married at the time they had an abortion.
- Had already had a child when they had an abortion.
- Were pro-life before they had an abortion (and perhaps even identify as pro-life now).
I will also need you to be living in the United States.
The story will be part of a weekly column I produce for Cosmopolitan.com, and your responses will be completely confidential. You will be known only as Woman A, Woman B, Women C, etc.
If you can help, please email me at email@example.com by Monday AM. Thanks in advance.
I’m writing my Cosmo column this week on abortion, and I’m looking for women to answer some anonymous questions about their experiences via email.
I am pro-choice, but I’m not looking for a particular type of (positive or negative) story. I will need you to be currently aged between 18 and 35, though, and have been living in the United States at the time you had your abortion (since laws differ so much from country to country).
If you would like to participate, please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org before EOD Tuesday. Thanks in advance for your help.
ETA: I’ve heard from everyone I need now. Thanks so much to everyone who got in touch.
“Whatever you think is wrong with your sex life or lack thereof, you’re probably fine.”
A pithy summary of my TEDx talk. Thanks for the shout-out, hellyeahsexpositive!
Understanding the Sex Myth: Rachel Hills at TEDxLoughborough
NOTE: I am such a huge sucker for TED Talks you guys oh my gosh. This one isn’t excessively long, and it boils down to “whatever you think is wrong with your sex life or lack thereof, you’re probably fine”.