If you read one thing this weekend, make it Tami Winfrey Harris’s Not everyone is laughing at Shit White Girls Say To Black Girls:

The discussion is hard because it requires good, well-meaning people to admit to and examine their own racial privilege. It requires those who may think of themselves as anti-racist allies to do more than tsk tsk along with black friends about some madness, say, Rick Santorum said, and recall the things they personally (and perhaps innocently) may have done to make friends, family and co-workers of color feel othered. That’s tough. And it’s not just tough for the “white girls” mentioned in Ramsey’s work. It’s hard for everyone who has any kind of privilege, be it educational privilege, sexual privilege, gender privilege, etc. (Clutch Magazine)

Jon Hamm, via Mademoiselle Robot.

How to own your privilege and not be a jerkface about it. (The Gloss)

“Mommy, they are just like me.” «« One of many reasons representations of gay people in pop culture matter. (And this is my blog…)

Why you usually look like crap in other people’s Facebook photos. (Gawker)

The euro crisis isn’t really about money. It’s about the fiction that Europeans ever existed at all. (Foreign Policy)

Grieving the loss of your body fantasy:

We talk about grief in regards to losing those that we love or having to give up possessions or places by necessity of circumstance. Less often, you will hear people talking openly about the grief that they experience at having to give up a notion of themselves that they clung to for dear life. (Medicinal Marzipan)

And while we’re at it, we may as well grieve the fact that we’re never going to look the way we do in our own mirrors, either:

One of the biggest things I learned during my mirror fast was exactly how much I do control what I see in the mirror: My “mirror face,” for starters, which ensures I’ll always be seeing a wider-eyed, poutier-lipped version of myself than what you might see when you look at me. Then there’s makeup, hairstyles, lighting, angles… (The Beheld)

How to deal with copycats and idea thieves. (Productive Flourishing)

But there are some good reasons not to laugh at the “Shit girls say” meme that spawned it. (Feministing)

Of all the responses to my Melinda Tankard Reist profile last weekend, this analysis felt the most dead-on:

It’s this strong line up of critical voices which shows us the magazine (and Hills in her blog) sees that running a profile of Tankard Reist is controversial for the readership. Sunday Life is anticipating a reaction from traditional second wave and libertarian feminists. (Bible Society)

Red dress, blue dress. Danielle Meder dissects the meaning of colour in The Iron Lady. (Final Fashion)

How do you deal with feelings of intellectual inadequacy? (Ben Casnocha)

Who’s next in line for the editorships of Vogue, the New Yorker and Vanity Fair? (Ad Week)